Haywire, couple of things: stop talking about things you don't understand.
Ask for info; answer questions you are qualified to address, and leave the rest alone. You don't actually *know* the people you've 'met' here....it's an internet forum!

Next, you will have more credibility if you take some time to phrase your questions in a way that makes sense, and lay off the exclamation point. There are other punctuation marks.

And OG2 and the rest are right, and you, my dear, are wrong. Your cheater is a cheater and womanizer, unless you're a guy...then he's just a cheat. If he will break his vows to his wife, and you will break your oath to the service you contracted to, then you are both in deep dark trouble starting out. You are simply in denial, and I am guessing (as an old lady still in the first marriage I promised to commit to) he is using you.

I would love for you to come back in fifteen years, and tell us all in a well-thought-out and articulate way, "I told you so." We will be happy to congratulate you.

Until then, your legal advice is: you are contemplating breaching a contract. You have no legal standing to do so. There you go.

Well spoken KD. I can tell you I have meet a few people from this forum and call many of the others up for any reason and have an ear to talk to. Look at your story and I can tell you as a man if I was dating a woman and found out she was cheating on her husband I would tell her husband walk out on her because I would never have trust. Then the idea of loosing a security clearance for someone else I couldn't and wouldn't do as my job depends on it. You made a choice to sign the papers. Stay in our find your way out through a dishonorable discharge if you want out so bad