Register | Login
United States Coast Guard Forums and Information
The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,yacht,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States Coast Guard. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,travel,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion The World's Premiere Source for United States. Information and resources about the USCG, rules, regulations, policy, pay, jobs, forms, pay, locations, and more. auxiliary,faq,facts,manuals,boating rules,boating regulations,boating safety,inflatable boats, scuba diving,boating magazines,boats,boat talk,boaters,boats for sale,boating information,survey,cruising,cruiser,sea,ocean,tide,current,weather,marine,ships,inflatables,fishing,fisherman,cutter,boat navigation,wind,chart,navigator,powerboat,sailboat,sailing,opinion
Boyfriends leaving for bootcamp, so many descions
Last Post 01 Apr 2014 07:02 AM by Old Guard2. 3 Replies.
Printer Friendly
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
Sort:
PrevPrev NextNext
You are not authorized to post a reply.
Author Messages Not Resolved
alijoUser is Offline
New Member
New Member
Send Private Message
Posts:1
alijo

--
31 Mar 2014 02:21 PM
    my boyfriend and I have been together 6 months(I've known him since I was a sophomore and he was a junior in high school) and he is leaving for bootcamp April 28th. we haven't been together long but I know he is the one. We have talked about getting married but our families are concerned because were young(I'm 19 and he is 20). To me it makes the most sense, because I plan on following him to wherever he gets stationed. What is the benefits of getting married when he gets home from bootcamp? how long would it take for me to be included in where he gets stationed/benefits and housing?
    Champman555User is Offline
    New Member
    New Member
    Send Private Message
    Posts:62
    Champman555

    --
    31 Mar 2014 04:14 PM

    My .02cents is that you should wait as long as you can before considering marriage. People change immensely just from age 20 to 25. Sometimes you get closer and other times you grow apart. However, im sure you are going to get plenty of advice from others so take it or leave it. Some benefits of being married is if he is stationed on a ship then he will not have to live aboard (if its moored) whereas if he was single I believe the first 4 months he has to live aboard or in barracks. In my situation we decided to live in the available housing which are nice 2 bedroom duplex's. If I were single I would have had to live in CG owned apartments with a roommate. Take my experience with a grain of salt because every unit is different in what will or will not be available. Other benefits is that you both will get more money for moving costs, more weight will be allowed when moving, and you get to have health insurance. I can’t think of any other major benefits. You can get married in route, which means getting married after boot camp and in route to his first unit. I know the Yeoman in basic mentioned something about that, but since I was already married I didn’t listen to the details that pertain to getting married in route. As far as a time factor on how long would it take for you to be included should be automatic after your get your dependent ID card.

    GearsUser is Offline
    Trusted Member
    Moderator
    Moderator
    Send Private Message
    Posts:6879
    Gears

    --
    01 Apr 2014 04:20 AM
    The benefits of getting married are essentially health insurance for you and a housing allowance. However, the reason the divorce rate is so high in the military is because people get married really young. Your bf has no idea what he's gotten himself into. His first 6 months after boot camp are going to be rough. He's going to be working on qualifications and speaking a foreign language.

    You're the other factor in this. Do you want to go to college? Unless you want to go online you may have to switch schools a couple of times before you finish. And, locking down a career for yourself will be tough if he decides to stay in.

    Best of luck to you both.
    “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” ― Bruce Lee
    Old Guard2User is Offline
    Moderator / Trusted Member
    Forum Supreme!
    Forum Supreme!
    Send Private Message
    Posts:14313
    Old Guard2

    --
    01 Apr 2014 07:02 AM
    Why do you plan on following him? I was married very young to my Coastie... we were divorced 12 years later. However, I did not follow him. We lived in NJ, he was stationed in Alaska. We were apart for 13 months. We managed. I had my life where we lived, he had his life to adjust to. We were both worth waiting for, so we did. That was 1985. No internet, no cell phones, no Skype, no text messages, no email, no calling plans. Instead we had astronomical phone bills because you paid for every single minute that line was connected. We had no answering machines, so either he was home or he wasn't; I was home or I wasn't. We had pencil, paper, stamps and the United Postal Service... if it took them 2 weeks to deliver a letter, well he heard about what I was doing 2 weeks after I did it. To send pictures, that sometimes took months. I had to wait to use a whole roll of film, drop it off at the photo place, they sent it out, waited to get it back, then I had to send them to him, sometimes taking a week to get to Kodiak.

    Truly, if you are worth having and waiting for, he will. If he is worth having and waiting for, you will. You have no need to follow him. You need to have your life and be able to support yourself first. Then you can support each other.
    Sector NY, Staten Island
    You are not authorized to post a reply.


    Active Forums 4.3



    Military clothing, gear, insignia, baseball caps and other quality items at SoldierCity


    Disclaimer

    This web site is a privately-owned and has not been underwritten or supported by the United States Coast Guard. 
    The views and opinions posted by members do not reflect the views and opinions of the United States Coast Guard.
    This is an informational site. Welcome aboard!

    Copyright 2010 by USCG.ORG
    United States Coast Guard Forums and Information  |  Terms Of Use  |  Privacy Statement