My boyfriend of 7 years enlisted into the uscg right after high school. There is not a time where I can say that it wasn't rough on both of us but we made it through. I stayed busy with school and he was able to explore the world on a cutter. After his 5 years being active he decided to go into the reserves to try to audition for the state police. After ~2 years of being in he reserves and not having the satisfaction of a career/ getting selected for the state police he re-enlisted and is now in WI. This time around is much different. We are 23 now and my boyfriend sees it that if I don't relocate with him our relationship is over. We have done long distance before and he does not see it as an option. We both love each other very much, both thought we will marry each other but honestly I am torn and need some advice.
This time I am able to go with him but as many gf we must leave our career and family to live theirs. He is offering to support me and continue our relationship that will now be a military relationship. So what is stopping me? The lack of confidence in making a decision and all the time that I will be alone when he is assigned another cutter that goes underway for 3 months. I know it is what you make of it not everyone has the luxury to travel. Overall, I am concerned and uncertain if I will be happy as a military wife, or if I will be happy if we break up and not give it a chance.
My question to you is when you think back to when you decided to leave your current life behind for love, do you have any regrets? Would you do it again or live life as a civilian? Any advice/ comments will be helpful and appreciate you taking the time to read my post as this is the first blog I am expressing our hardship.
I would also like to thank the other girlfriends/wives who have posted. We can keep each other strong and am thankful that I found this blog.