My husband joined the USCG and finished DEPOT in June. He's always wanted to do reserves and we thought (incorrectly) it would help us save a bit for a house. I signed the spousal agreement and met with him and his recruiter when we signed the paperwork. We were told while he was at DEPOT he would get BAH. This was a big deal for us as we live in the SF Bay Area and our rent is very expensive. If he wasn't doing boot camp, he'd be working. We knew we would get AS MUCH as him working but per the contract it would be pretty close, and we'd be able to pay our rent. He was also given a $2k bonus they told us we would get after boot camp which would help.
Fast forward, he finishes boot camp, they don't pay the BAH saying his recruiter was wrong, he doesn't get the active duty BAH rate. (By the way we have a 1yr old and 2yr old) and that he won't get the bonus till after A school. They also have his A school dates wrong which is when we need him working.
They told us they don't have to honor the contract. But on the contract (the spousal document specifically) it says that if they don't honor it he can be discharged? They're also refusing to let him go. Here's the thing, we can't pay rent if he goes to A school and doesn't get BAH. We would lose almost 10k versus him staying here and working. They want him to go to A school for 9 weeks. This would put us in a HUGE financial mess. How can we get him out if they aren't going to pay him BAH? Can we delay his A school? Can we get him honorably discharged? They have been really rude and told us we need a lawyer if we want to get him out.
It seems like they lied a ton and now our family won't be able to pay rent. We've already lost a month of rent by him being gone for DEPOT. Are there any options? As a wife, is there anything I can do? I'm going to have to watch our savings for a house go down the drain.