It might seem cliche and never want to be a part of a statistic, yet I'm not even really sure if this is the right place to mention and ask for help but since we got stationed on the island we have been fine until, whenever new people transfers every summer..My husband would leave for work earlier, stay later, (I'm naive about all his position's duties and real schedule since not only does he keep them from me but he keeps changing the "original" time), he always ends up training others (he's an mst3 now 2) and tend to be always women and come home so disrespectful and verbally violent. It's emotionally and mentally abusive. (He changes!) Became secretive about his phone and waking up secretly in the middle of the morning, etc.
Then just recently, past May 2019 it started again and even worse. I just gave birth to months before and he was very distant and always suspicious. When he's on duty he schedules himself with the same new officer (she's engaged too) for ship inspections until now and uses work as an excuse of being early or late. (He was lying where he goes and what days he works and have special events.) Uses work time to communicate with ppl on social media since Facebook dating app started and says he's busy and stacked up on work.
We fought and he never came home until talking with him, close to midnight and found out he has cheated.
Sorry for the long story and rambling but who can I speak to about this and what do they do to investigate?
He doesn't want to go to counseling, "he doesn't want to talk about it". (Way before this occured.) I think his close co workers knows his secret. Thank you for your time.